How To Handle Change Beautifully
We come into life empty-handed and then expect to grab and hold onto everything. Immediately we make claim for ownership. “This is mine. It can’t go away.” Some enormous hunger begins to develop. What exactly are we hungering for? First it is only food and love that we are demanding. But soon this craving grows more subtle. We want everything. We want to receive, to hold and possess.
We want to keep whatever we have forever. Many even believe that their relationships are possessions which must be grasped in their hands. This kind of attitude can be hard to outgrow. When change happens and INDESIT WIL 85 these individuals lose something which they felt belonged to them, it is as though a part of themselves is being taken away.
Why We Cling
Most people feel that their security and identity comes from holding on and keeping things intact. They have the illusion that they are in control and cling to expectations, old beliefs, hopes, dreams, old relationships, and the memory of things “as they used to be”. Naturally, this false sense of security is constantly being threatened. It has to be. It is based upon that which is not true.
The very nature of life itself is change, growth and metamorphosis. That which stops moving begins to die. The very process of our lives may be said to be a process of becoming hungry, (physically, emotionally and spiritually hungry), searching for sustenance, finding it and then becoming hungry again. But we must stop to absorb and digest. We must be willing to take the nourishment offered and discard the waste products, to let go. We must grow to realize that coming and going, giving and taking, holding and letting go is the very nature of our existence and find our true homes and security there.
True Identity
The sense that our world is stable and stationary, that change will never come, that we will go on in our present form is the nature of all delusion. It arises out of not knowing who we really are. Most feel that they are their job, achievement, name or relationship. This is how they identify themselves. They are this and not that. Their group is good, the other is bad. Some are strangers, others friends. The identity of these individuals is externally determined by who they know and what they have. The more they have the more important they are. This is a dangerous and false position. The winds of change blow continually. We lose our possessions. Our husband or wife goes away. Our hair grows thinner. We try to pretend that this isn’t happening and try to keep everything the same.
This very effort causes our suffering. We spend our whole life desperately trying to hold everything together and yet no matter how much we try, everything seems to fall apart, reminding us that we are floating in the wild ocean, seated only in a cardboard boat. All anxiety and stress comes from living inside this cardboad boat, plugging up its leaks constantly, swimming against the tide. Is there a real ship we can board somewhere?
Can we learn to become one with the ocean? Who are we anyway? L
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